Sunday August 22 2021. Twenty-first Sunday in Ordinary Time
Sunday, August 22 2021
Twenty-First Sunday in Ordinary Time
First Reading: Joshua 24:1-2, 15-18
When they reach the Promised Land, will they serve the true God?
Joshua gathered all the tribes of Israel to Shechem, and summoned the elders, the heads, the judges, and the officers of Israel; and they presented themselves before God.
Then Joshua said to all the people, “If you are unwilling to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served in the region beyond the River or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
Then the people answered, “Far be it from us that we should forsake the Lord to serve other gods; for it is the Lord our God who brought us and our ancestors up from the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery, and who did those great signs in our sight. He protected us along all the way that we went, and among all the peoples through whom we passed; and the Lord drove out before us all the peoples, the Amorites who lived in the land. Therefore we also will serve the Lord, for he is our God.”
Responsorial: from Psalm 34
R./: Taste and see the goodness of the Lord
I will bless the Lord at all times;
his praise shall be always in my mouth.
Let my soul glory in the Lord;
the lowly will hear me and be glad. (R./)
The Lord has eyes for the just,
and ears for their cry.
The Lord confronts the evildoers,
to destroy remembrance of them from the earth. (R./)
When the just cry out, the Lord hears them,
and from all their distress he rescues them.
The Lord is close to the broken-hearted;
and those who are crushed in spirit he saves. (R./)
Many are the troubles of the just one,
but out of them all the Lord delivers him;
he watches over all his bones;
not one of them shall be broken. (R./)
Second Reading: Ephesians 5:21-32
A loving marriage is an image of the love between Christ and the Church
Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the church, the body of which he is the Saviour. Just as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to be, in everything, to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, in order to make her holy by cleansing her with the washing of water by the word, so as to present the church to himself in splendour, without a spot or wrinkle or anything of the kind-yes, so that she may be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as they do their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, because we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ and the church.
Gospel: John 6:60-69
When many turn away from Jesus, his friends must choose
When they heard his doctrine, many of his followers said, “This teaching is difficult; who can accept it?” But Jesus, being aware that his disciples were complaining about it, said to them, “Does this offend you? Then what if you were to see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before? It is the spirit that gives life; the flesh is useless. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life. But among you there are some who do not believe.”
For Jesus knew from the first who were the ones that did not believe, and who was the one that would betray him. And he said, “For this reason I have told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted by the Father.” Because of this many of his disciples turned back and no longer went about with him. So Jesus asked the twelve, “Do you also wish to go away?” Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom can we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and know that you are the Holy One of God.”
The nobility of marriage
Paul’s text today presents marriage as the most widespread way of life and holiness in the Church. Every Christian is called to integrity of life, to holiness really, and for most people this is achieved within and through their marriage partnership. This idea might make some people nervous, because they have too austere an idea of holiness; consequently they find it hard to see how their marriage fits into it. Traditional devotional writing linked holiness to heroic devotional or charitable activity, usually undertaken by women and men with vows of celibacy. Hence many still see the vocation to holiness and the choice of married life as two parallel lines which don’t intersect. By contrast, St Paul saw the faithful living of family life as a basic way to holiness. This is not some second-best option for those who have neither the talent nor the zeal for apostolic works.
Our Church links holiness with lovingly embracing our role in this world. The married Christian’s vocation is to show genuine love as husband, wife, mother or father. Of course, to exercise this love with integrity is not so easy. The statistics of breakdown suggest how hard it is to sustain a permanent relationship. Far from the self-absorption which marks so much of modern living the ideal of faithful, life-long love looks more and more like a holy ideal, a glimpse into another and better world.
Most of us have met people of extraordinary courage who remained faithful despite the strain of their partner’s prolonged illness, or separation due to conditions of economic need. These unusual situations are a true test of commitment. The promise made in Christian marriage is the commitment to no longer being the sole master or mistress of our own destiny. The married Christian can no longer think merely in terms of “my life” — for everything is now related to another. This commitment is not one-sided but is mutually shared and mutually life-giving. At root, it is the mystery of Christ’s love, laying down our life for another. It is in and through this loving relationship, in the joy of giving and receiving love, that the married Christian is called to holiness. And living it is the married vocation. (courtesy of Peter Briscoe)
Religion A-La-Carte ?
Many of the hearers left him, while others decided to stay with him. What do we make of that? Fishing fascinated me when I was young. The tackle was basic and the catches were modest. One of the memories that stands out in my mind today was hunting for the best place to fish. As soon as someone caught a fish further along the river or lakeshore, I’d gather my gear and run off to fish there. What often happened was that soon someone else hooked a fish just at the place I had left! Maybe that’s why I was not such a great fisherman! Stability and sticking at it were not my greatest virtues!
Today’s Gospel is about coming to a decision and sticking by it. Jesus had the rare ability to offer a straight option—you were either for him, or against him. He himself was fully committed to his mission, and to all that was best for us, even if at times his disciples complained. He was used to being criticised by his enemies, but when he could not depend on the loyalty of his friends, he had to call them to account.
In a way it was hard on the disciples, because, by the nature of what Jesus offered, it could not just be some sort of an a la carte menu, from which they could choose whatever suited them. When some of his followers began to walk away, he didn’t run after them and try to reason with them. That was not his way. Rather he turned to those who stayed and challenged them to commit themselves. There are three types of people in every gathering. those who cause things to happen; those who watch things happening; and those who don’t know what is happening! Peter was the one who stepped up to the occasion. “Lord” he said “You alone have the words of eternal life. We know, and we believe that you are the Christ, the Holy One of God.” For Jesus, losing the others was worth it, if it left him with loyal followers like Peter.
A group of Christians were gathered for a secret prayer meeting in Communist Russia, at the height of the Stalinist era. Suddenly the door was broken down by the boot of a soldier, who entered the room, and faced the people with a gun in his hand. They all feared the worst when he said, “If there are any of you who don’t really believe in Jesus, get out now while you have a chance.” There was a rush to the door and in the end only a small group remained. The soldier closed the door and stood in front of those who remained, gun still in hand. Finally, a smile appeared on his face, and as he turned to leave the room he whispered “Actually, I believe in Jesus, too. And believe me, you’re much better off without those others!’
Minorities can be right
In our culture success can often be a game of numbers. A successful television programme is one that has a very large viewing audience. If the numbers watching declines, the programme is in trouble. Democracy is based on majority vote. The candidate with the most votes gets elected. Every political party is anxious to maximize their vote on election day. In all kinds of ways, numbers matter in our society. The schools with the biggest number of graduates going on to University are considered the better schools. If some event that is organized only attracts a small crowd it is considered a failure.
The gospel suggests that Jesus was not too concerned about numbers. The gospels for the last four Sundays have been taken from chapter 6 of John’s gospel where Jesus speaks of himself as the Bread of Life and of the need to eat his flesh and drink his blood in order to have life. In today’s gospel some of Jesus’ own disciples express their unease with this language. ‘This is intolerable language’, they say, ‘How could anyone accept it?’ Jesus is portrayed in that reading as being very aware that some of his followers were complaining. Yet, he did not make any effort to soften his teaching in order to hold on to his numbers. Rather, he insists that the words he has been speaking, all his words, are spirit and life. As a result, the gospel tells us that ‘many of his disciples left him and stopped going with him.’ Jesus suddenly lost a whole swathe of his following. From the perspective of the culture of the time and of our own culture he was suddenly less successful. According to the gospel, Jesus even turned to the Twelve apostles, his core group, and asked them, ‘What about you? Do you want to go away too?’ He was prepared to suffer a haemorrhage from that core group rather than compromise on the teaching that he had given. It seems that numbers were not important to him. What was important to him was proclaiming the truth as he had heard it from God his Father. On this occasion Jesus held onto the Twelve. Peter, their spokesperson, grasped the moment to declare their faithfulness to Jesus, ‘Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the message of eternal life.’ Yet, Jesus would go on to lose even some the Twelve. At the time of his passion Judas betrayed him and Peter denied him. If success is to be measured by numbers, by the end of his earthly life, Jesus was a total failure.
The whole life of Jesus shows that the value of something does not bear any necessary relation to the number of people who support it. Popularity does not necessarily show where truth is to be found. We can be tempted to think that if a lot of people reject some viewpoint that, therefore, it must be wrong. Numbers are not everything. We follow Jesus not because he was or is popular but because, in the word of Peter in the gospel, we recognize that he has the message of eternal life, or in the language of Jesus himself in that same reading, we acknowledge that the words that he speaks are spirit and life. We will find some of his teaching very challenging. We may be tempted to say, in the words of some of the disciples, ‘This is intolerable language. How can anyone accept it?’ We may not be troubled so much by his identification of himself as the Bread of Life or his call to eat his flesh and drink his blood. It may be some other aspect of his teaching, perhaps his challenging words in the Sermon on the Mount, to love our enemies, to pray for those who persecute us. Some people react negatively to some of Jesus’ parables. They feel sorry for the older son in the parable of the prodigal son and for the men who worked all day and who got the same wages as those who worked for the last hour in the parable of the Workers in the Vineyard. It should not surprise us when we find ourselves struggling with some of what Jesus says. In the language of the prophet Isaiah, God’s thoughts are not our thoughts; God’s ways are not our ways. It has been said that Jesus comforts the afflicted and afflicts the comfortable. We all need Jesus to do both for us. We need his comforting and sustaining presence when we are afflicted, but sometimes we need his disturbing presence in our comfort.
The teaching and the life of Jesus will always challenge us at some level of our being. There may even be times when we will feel like walking away from it. That is why it is so important for us to keep renewing our response to the Lord’s presence and invitation. The Eucharist is the primary moment when we commit ourselves again to the Lord’s vision for our lives; it is our weekly opportunity to make our own those words of Peter in today’s gospel, ‘Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the message of eternal life.’
Key Message:
Let us take a personal oath – “I and my household will serve the Lord in both good and troubled times”.
Homily:
The takeaway from the first reading:
Joshua makes a strong commitment in front of all the Israelites:
“I and my household will serve the Lord”.
Joshua wholeheartedly loved the Lord and He has invested time in ensuring that His whole household also loves and serves the Lord.
We need to emphasize that as a family we worship our Lord. We can teach action songs for our children to perform during family prayer so that they will be interested in doing so. If older children do not sit before the Lord, then, to begin with, let us have a few minutes of prayer at the dinner table itself. Please ensure that the prayer time is creative and not boring. Creative like allocating a topic for speech every week, (topics like – what do you think about God?), dance, song or show a painting of Jesus, or write an essay and read it aloud). We need to make it a daily practice. On some days, when time is not sufficient, then we can only use a worship song.
Another good learning from the reading is Joshua is not looking for people’s approval. If we are looking for people’s approval and not God’s approval, it will hinder our relationship with God and we will not be able to fulfil the marvellous plans which God has planned for us.
We need to realize that everyone is not going to like us. If we keep focussing on what other people think about us, we will never be able to do what God has planned us to do. We will miss living God’s plan and will be filled with regrets.
We will remember the God of our good times and serve Him in troubled times!!
Takeaway from the second reading:
The Apostle Paul explains that the relationship between husband and wife should be similar to the relationship between Christ and the church.
We will go through this in the Tips section.
The takeaway from Gospel reading:
Jesus asks His disciples, “Do you ALSO wish to go away?”
Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom can we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and know that you are the Holy One of God.”
When other people left Jesus, Jesus turned to His friends. Jesus is ok when other people leave Him. But He wants His own friends to be with Him.
Jesus has the same expectation with us now. He has spent years closely working with us in the form of the Holy Spirit. If we lose touch with Him, it is very painful for Him. We who sit in the table of God every Sunday, can we leave Him?
Jesus is longing for us. Let us also long for Him and enjoy our lifetime with Him.
Tips to implement the takeaways:
1. In the First reading, the Israelites responded to Joshua by counting all the good God has showered on them. Then with a heart of thanks, they also take the same pledge as Joshua. Recalling the blessings that we have received, makes our heart faithful. Actually, the easiest way to be faithful is to keep recalling the daily blessings.
We can consider the following easy doable action items:
Before sleeping, we can allocate few minutes of our time to recall all the blessings we experienced through the day and note them in a notepad or laptop or any device.
Read through it and thank God for them. Blessing God can be the last item for the day. This will enable us to calm down and have a peaceful sleep.
While we wake up in the morning, let us remember our Almighty Father’s face as the first thought in the morning.
As soon as a baby wakes up from sleep, once it sees its mother’s face it becomes very happy. When we wake up, let us also see our Almighty Father’s caring face and be filled with happiness and joy!!
2. In the Gospel reading, we find that when the rest of the people left Jesus, Jesus searches for His own.
A person will undergo the same search when s/he is abandoned by the world. If the world also rejects, a person will expect their spouse to be there for him/her. Jesus expects us never to disown our own family.
3. Christ did not expect the church (His disciples) to make Him happy. He was taking care of His own happiness. Actually, it would have been stressful for us, if we have to live with and manage a batch of 12 people who were totally different in educational status, financial status, behaviours, and so on. But Jesus never lost His cool in managing them. He loved them irrespective of all the troubles they gave Him.
Similarly, we should not expect our spouse to make us happy. If we want to go shopping and our spouse wants to stay at home, then let us sacrifice and stay at home. While staying at home too we should make ourselves joyful and fulfilled. It may be listening to songs or whatsoever. But we should ensure that we should not lose our happiness because of others and also we should not give others the responsibility of making us happy.
4. Jesus did not expect His disciples to be perfect, because they are the disciples of the Son of God. He understood that they would have a human weakness. He never expected them to do what they could not do, or to give what they could not give.
If our spouse is not able to talk sweetly or not able to shine in front of people or causes a bad name for the family or not able to earn more or is not able to cook, that’s ok. Let us not feel frustrated about it. Let us accept them as they are. God has a purpose to keep us there. We are much needed in this family rather than anywhere else in this world, because we can serve God by serving His people who are difficult to be with.
5. We find in the Bible that when our dear Jesus was talking about spiritual food, His disciples were assuming that Jesus was mentioning the physical bread, which they had not brought. When Jesus revealed about His forthcoming sufferings, the Apostle Peter told Him not to do all these things. The thoughts of Jesus and the apostles were not at all in sync. There was a huge difference in their priorities, in what each considered the right thing to do, and so on.
But irrespective of the differences, they loved each other. Jesus loved His disciples and His disciples loved Him very much. Jesus loved to be in the company of His disciples and His disciples loved to be in the company of Jesus.
Most of the time spouses will differ in their opinion. It is not necessary that both spouses should be able to take the same decision or have the same kind of response for any kind of situation. Respecting each other’s opinions, time and space is a must, because it is not a meeting in a restaurant, but is a lifetime meeting. We should never force the other person to do what we want them to do. Agreeing to disagree in trivial matters will enable us to lead a peaceful life.
6. The wisdom of Jesus and His disciples were not comparable. Jesus was compensating for the incompetence of His disciples.
Certainly, there will be differences in the level of wisdom and knowledge between spouses. That should not make one of the spouses feel less about him/herself. God has put the two different personalities together so that they will compensate for each other.
7. Jesus was always the first one to forgive and make peace. He forgave the Apostle Peter and Thomas first, even before they asked for an apology. They realized and repented of their mistake. He never said to them to feel bad for their sins and then be happy. He instantly forgave them.
Let us be the first ones to forgive. Being the first one to ask forgiveness only shows spiritual maturity. It is a bold step, not a cowardly one.
8. Jesus listened to the disciples when they returned from the mission of preaching. He listened to all their sharing of activities in the day. We also see that Jesus also shares all that He was planning to do. Often, Jesus ensures that He spends time just with the disciples and shares His wisdom with them alone.
Listening makes hearts bind together. Spouses should spend time alone together and both talk and listen. We should ensure not to let any unnecessary talk spoil the time of togetherness.
9. We see Jesus singing Psalms with His apostles at the dinner table. Though He was preaching to them always, He also prayed with them. God blesses the family when they pray together to Him. God enjoys seeing a family together praising Him. His heart flows with happiness.
A family that prays together, joys together. Together we shall sing and praise God.
Sunday 22nd August. Domestic violence
In 2000, (yes,21 years ago!) the Justice and Peace Commission of the Irish Bishops Conference produced a document on Domestic Violence in which they recommended several texts were omitted from reading at Mass, including Ephesians 5:21-25.
Regrettably the issue of domestic violence continues to be widespread.
https://catholicmoraltheology.com/ephesians-5-and-domestic-violence-words-of-eternal-life/